National Association of Wedding Ministers
Wedding Traditions in North America
Seeing an open grave, pig, or lizard on the way to the ceremony, or hearing a crow after dawn on the morning of the wedding are all thought to be omens of bad luck. Catching a glimpse of a monk or a nun is also thought to be a omen of misfortune because of their association with poverty and chastity.
BEST MAN TRADITION
Among the Germanic Goths of northern Europe in 200 A.D., a man usually married a woman from within his own community. However, when there were fewer women, the prospective bridegroom would capture his bride from a neighboring village. The bridegroom was accompanied by his strongest friend (or best friend), who helped him capture his bride.
This term has many origins from different cultures. In Anglo-Saxon times, the groom had the help of “bridesmen” or “brideknights” to help him capture and/or escort his bride. Later they would make sure that the bride got to the church and to the groom’s home afterwards. The women who accompanied and assisted the bride were called “bridesmaids” or “brideswomen”.
Bridal showers were meant to strengthen the ties between the bride and her friends, provide her moral support, and help her prepare for her marriage. Gift giving at showers dates from the 1890’s.
The tradition of bridesmaids dressing the same as each other and in similar style to the bride comes from ancient days when it was believed that evil spirits have a more difficult time distinguishing which one is the bride and putting a hex on her.
In the 1st. century B.C. in Rome, the cake was thrown at the bride or broken over her head as one of the many fertility symbols which then were a part of the marriage ceremony. Cutting the wedding cake together, still a predominant ritual at weddings, symbolizes the couple’s unity, their shared future, and their life together as one. The three tiered cake is believed to have been inspired by the spire of Saint Bride’s Church in London, England.
CARRYING THE BRIDE OVER THE THRESHOLD
Traditionally, the bride had to enter her new home the first time through the front door. If she tripped or stumbled while entering it was considered to be very bad luck. Hence the tradition of the groom carrying the bride over the threshold.
DIAMOND ENGAGEMENT RING
The diamond engagement ring originated with King Maximillian who presented Mary of Burgundy with a diamond ring in 1477 as a token of his love.
The Venetians Popularized the custom during the 15th. century. Since the diamond was the hardest and most enduring substance in nature it followed that the engagement and marriage would endure forever.
As civilizations developed, political, military, and economic ties became very important to prominent families and clans. Arranged marriages were a means of cementing ties between families, middle class family businesses, and countries. A man’s daughters, who were considered to be his property in those days, provided a means of securing needed alliances with other families. Thus dowries were introduced as a means attracting and securing the most beneficial family alliances possible.
In 860 A.D., Pope Nicholas I decreed that an engagement ring become a required statement of nuptial intent. He insisted that engagement rings had to be made of gold which signified a financial sacrifice on the part of the prospective husband.
From the earliest times, brides have adorned their hair with flowers and carried bunches of flowers. Traditionally, each type of flower had a special meaning and significance in and of itself. Flowers were often thrown at the couple after the ceremony. However today, most brides pick their flowers for color and personal appeal not based on the traditional meaning of particular flowers.
The groom’s flower, worn on his lapel, usually matches one of the flowers in his bride’s bouquet. This tradition goes back to medieval times when knights wore the colors of their lady in tournaments.
GARTER AND BRIDAL BOUQUET TOSS
In parts of Europe during the 14th contrary, having a piece of the bride’s clothing was thought to bring good luck. Guests would literally destroy the brides dress by ripping off pieces of fabric. In order to prevent this, brides began throwing various items to the guests – the garter belt being one of the items.
In order to avoid this problem, it became customary in the 14th century for the bride to toss her garter to the men. Sometimes the men would get drunk, become impatient, and try to remove the garter ahead of time. Therefore, the custom evolved for the groom to remove and toss the garter. With that change the bride started to toss the bridal bouquet to the unwed girls of marriageable age. Tradition says that whoever catches the bouquet shall be the next to marry. She keeps the bouquet to ensure this destiny.
Seeing a lamb, frog, spider, black cat, or rainbows on the way to the ceremony is believed to be a sign of good luck!
The tradition of a “Groom’s Cake” comes from England and Ireland. There, the traditional groom’s cake is a fruit cake with white icing. The groom’s cake is usually served along with the traditional wedding cake. Today groom’s cakes are very often chocolate instead of the traditional fruit cake.
After “kidnapping” his bride, the groom would take her and go into hiding. By the time the bride’s family tracked them down them, the bride would probably already be pregnant! A “bride price” would then be negotiated.
An earlier source is the early Jewish custom of the bride and groom spending a week together alone immediately after the marriage feast. The earliest reference to this practice is Jacob’s marriages to Leah and Rachel.
KISS THE BRIDE
T he kiss dates back to the earliest days of civilization in the Middle East. A kiss was used as the formal seal to agreements, contracts, etc. In Ancient Rome a kiss was still being used as the legal bold to seal contracts. Hence the obvious use of the custom at the end of the wedding ceremony to “seal” the marriage vows. It also originates from the earliest times when the couple would actually make love for the first time under the eyes of half the village!
It was the largest mass wedding in history, when nearly 21,000 couples from the Moonie cult all got married on the same day. The event was also ‘attended’ by another 9,800 couples who took their vows via a satellite link.
Sir Temulji Nariman and his wife Lady Nariman were hitched for a grand total of 86 years, although they did have a distinct advantage over most people. Both were aged just five when they got married.
MONTH TO MARRY
According to an old legend, the month in which you marry may have some bearing on the fate of the marriage:
” Married when the year is new, he’ll be loving, kind and true;
When February birds do mate, you wed nor dread your fate;
If you wed when March winds blow, joy and sorrow both you’ll know;
Marry in April when you can, joy for Maiden and for Man;
Marry in the month of May, and you’ll surely rue the day;
Marry when June roses grow, over land and sea you will go;
Those who in July do wed, must labour for their daily bred;
Whoever wed in August be, many a change is sure to see;
Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine;
If in October you do marry, love will come but riches tarry;
If you wed in bleak November, only joys will come, remember;
When December snows fall fast, marry and true love will last”.
Of course, it’s a sad fact that not all marriages last. But some people really do seem to make a habit of getting divorced. The person who is credited with being married the most times is former Baptist minister Glynn Scotty Wolfe, who has taken on 28 brides – and divorced 27 of them.
MOST EXPENSIVE DRESS
Wedding dresses can make a major dent in your budget, but however much you spend it will be nothing compared to the outfit created by French designer Helene Gainville. Estimated to be worth a cool £3.5 million, the dress is embroidered with diamonds mounted on platinum. Not the sort of thing you would want to put in the attic after the wedding day.
The oldest recorded bride was Minnie Munro, who got hitched at a sprightly 102 years of age. Minnie, from Australia, wed a toy boy of 82. Britain’s oldest recorded bride was just one day off her 100th birthday when she took her vows with a man nearly 20 years her junior. Apparently the age gap was not thought to be a problem for them.
Playing pranks on the newlywed couple was also a tradition, which began with the intentions of warding off evil spirits. Loyal friends of the couple would do this in hopes that the spirits would take pity on the couple for already being picked upon enough, and would then leave the couple alone.
Rice has been used as a symbol of fertility and as a wish for a “full pantry” in various parts of the world from ancient to modern times. In the past, rice was not the only thing thrown at the bride and groom as the left the wedding. Wheat, instead of rice, was thrown in France, figs and dates were thrown in Northern Africa, and a combination of coins, dried fruit, and candy was thrown in Italy. In some European countries eggs are thrown!
Rice is not harmful to the birds that eat it, but an article in California professing this to be the case, has caused birdseed to replace rice at most weddings. Flower petals, confetti, baubles, and balloons are often used today instead of rice.
Rings were used as currency in the Middle East prior to the advent of coinage and were a sign of a persons wealth. In ancient times the wedding ring was thought to protected the bride from “evil spirits”. Ancient Roman wedding rings were made of iron.
In early Rome a gold band came to symbolize everlasting love and commitment in marriage. Roman wedding rings were carved with two clasped hands. Very early rings had a carved key through which a woman was thought to be able to open her husband’s heart.
In 3rd. century Greece the ring finger was the index finger. In India it was the thumb. The western tradition began with the Greeks who believed that the third finger was connected directly to the heart by a route that was called “the vein of love.”
In almost half of U.S. weddings either the bride or groom has been married previously.
SHOES TO THE CAR
This tradition originated in England during the Tudor period. At that time, guests would throw shoes at the bride and groom as they left in their carriage. It was considered good luck if their carriage was hit. Today, more often than not, it is beverage cans that are tied to a couples car instead of shoes. It should also be noted that the English consider it good luck if it rains on their wedding day!
In Sparta, during the height of Greek civilization, soldiers were the first to hold stag parties. The groom would have a party for his friends the night before he was to marry. He would bid farewell to his bachelorhood and pledge his continued allegiance to his comrades.
In early times, for Christians, Sunday was the original day of choice for weddings because it was not a work day. The Puritan revolution in England during the 17th century changed all that – because the Puritans thought it improper to be festive on the Sabbath. Saturday.
SOMETHING “OLD”, “NEW”, “BORROWED”, AND “BLUE”
Sunte asurzitoare,peste 70 de masini decorate cu culori vi,oameni deghizati au defilat cca. 3 mile prin orasul Norwich ,din Newmarket Road pana in Tombland.Mii de oameni aliniati in spatele barierelor din metal(gardulete) au admirat carnavalul de culori,spectacolele de teatru si muzica ,toate in cinstea Primarului orasului Norwich,Lord Mayor Cllr Jeremy Hooke.
…..si ar fi multe ,multe imagini de postat …Seara am poposit intr-un Parc de distractii,ametind intr-un ”trenulet al mortii” ca apoi admirand focurile de artificii.Din pacate bateriile din aparatul de fotografiat m-au lasat cand cand mi-a fost lumea mai draga :(
400 de artisti au decorat elefanti,elefanti mai mici si elefanti mari au fost pictati in diferite culori si cu diferite motive!
In Norwich au fost amplasati 53 de elefanti pe diferite strazi,fiecare elefant este unic prin coloritul sau ! Acest link va da posibilitatea sa vedeti cei 53 de elefanti si locatiile unde pot fi vazuti si/sau fotografiati.Fiecarui elefant i-a fost atribuit un nume
Go Elephants! este un proiect care a dat posibilitatea tinerilor artisti de a crea ceva si de a fi mandrii de ceea ce au creat.Elefantii pot fi admirati pe strazile din Norwich incepand cu 23 Iunie pana la sfarsitul lunii August.
Cativa Elefanti —cred ca asta ne aduce aminte ca trebuie sa reciclam plasticul cu hartia si dozele de bere :-)
— asta ne aduce aminte de Elefantul Babar ,din desenele animate!
…..Fetelor,daca v-ati pierdut oglinda din poseta ,mergeti in srada Royal Arcade ,ca va ajuta elefantelul! :)
Dupa parerea mea ,elefantelul imbracat in oglinda,este unul dintre preferati! Este extraordinar de frumos cand bate soarele in el,daca te poti uita la el ca trebuie sa iti gasesti un unghi anume,razele soarelui fiind reflectate,te orbesc de-a dreptul! Ca zicala ceea :,,Ca la saore te poti uita dar la el ba!”.
Descoperiti elefantii ,gasiti strazile pe care sunt amplasati,caci asta este ultima noutate in Norwich! Distractie placuta !
… in 1778 a fost creat simbolul dolarului american ($), de către designerul Oliver Pollock (New Orleans)?
… in 1919 trecerea la calendarul gregorian(calendarul pe stil nou), adoptat prin Decretul-lege din 5 martie 1919. Ziua de 1 aprilie (stil vechi)devenea 14 aprilie(stil nou)?
…in data de 1 Aprilie se sarbatoresc Ziua Pacalelilor si Ziua Internationala a Pasarilor?
…tot la 1 Aprilie s-au nascut Octavian Goga,1881, poet, publicist, om politic (d. 1938) si Edgar Wallace,1875, scriitor, jurnalist britanic (d. 1932)?
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Ca si acasa,in Romania,in Anglia azi este Ziua Pacalelior.Diferenta dintre cele doua tari este ,ca in Anglia pacaleala este valabila atata timp cat este facuta pana la ora 12,ora pranzului.
Aici glumele noastre nu sunt intelese asa cum ,nici noi, romanii ,nu intelegem glumele seci englezesti.Sau mai bine zis nu pe toate.
Eh,nu conteaza !Indiferent unde va aflati,in ce colt al lumii ,incercati sa nu va uitati traditiile chiar daca imprumutati traditii de la alte culturi!Sa nu uitam de unde venim,pentru ca avem o tara frumoasa si oameni minunati!
Cred m-am abatut de la subiect si cad in butoiul cu melancolie :(
Va doresc o zi plina de pacaleli!
Inainte cu o zi de a face nunta,barbatii sau viitorii miri,sarbatoresc Ptrecerea Burlacilor.Prietenii vitorului mire ,sunt invitati la petrecere,unde se bea si se deapana amintiri .Cand mirele adoarme beat ,prietenii il dezbraca si il lasa fara bani si haine,deposedindu-l de ele,ca apoi sa-l lase singur!
Adoua zi,mirele ,mahmur,realizeaza ce au planuit prietenii!Dar nu are prea mult timp la dispozitie ,caci trebuie sa ajunga la nunta ,pe la ora pranzului,desi nu are cu ce se imbraca,si nici bani nu sunt!De obicei astfel de farse se fac la 10-20 de km.(altii exagereaza si aleg 50-60 km) de orasul in care se va oficia nunta!
Mirele nu are decat sa alerge ,gol pusca ,pe strada sau soseaua cre duce in orasul lui ,unii incearca auto-stopul,dar fara rezultat.Doar inchipuiti-va ca cineva ,gol pusca ,va face semn sa il luati la ocazie!Nu cred ca veti opri :)
La biserica ,mireasa ,nu stie ce s-a petrecut cu o seara inintea nuntii,si incepe sa aibe mustrari de constiinta ,intebandu-se de ce intarzie sau de ce s-a razgandit logodnicul!In cele mai multe situatii,mirele a ajuns la timp in biserica,dichisit pentru nunta,dar alteori nu a ajuns la timp si nunta s-a anulat,sau s-a amanat(daca mireasa a fost intelegatoare).
Ei,traditie sau nu,va sfatuiesc sa fiti mai precauti cu prietenii si sa nu va imbatati inaintea nuntii ;)
In acesta sfanta saptamana,toata lumea este ocupata cu pregatirea bucatelor pentru duminica ce vine !Am cautat vopsea pentru vopsit oua dar…nu am gasit niciunde,sau nu am cautat eu unde trebuia :) . Asa ca am curatat mai multe cepe uscate si cateva cepe rosii ,am fiert cojile cu sare si putin otet,si am reusit sa am o culoare rosie decenta pentru ouale noastre pentru Sf. Paste!
Prietenul meu,englez ,nu a crezut ca poate fi posibil atunci cand i-am spus ce voi face ,asa ca mare i-a fost mirarea cand a vazut ouale inrosite cu culoare naturala!
Avem o gramada de leacuri ” babesti” si metode vechi pe care nu le mai folosim in ziua de azi! Pacat!Poate nici eu nu apelam la cepele mele daca as fi gasit vopsea pentru oua,asta e comoditatea!
Un Paste Ferit tuturor! Happy Easter !
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